Carlos Castaneda told us all about taking the ‘Path with Heart’ he also said that if you were already on a Path that you found had no Heart, then there would be no shame in leaving it and taking another route.
How many times have we found ourselves on a Path that we know has no meaning for us any more, even if it did in the first place?
There are so many occasions that we find ourselves saying yes when we really want to say no, and just to be clear this is where you recognise the feeling of a no Heart Path!
What Castaneda was saying was about enthusiasm, inspiration, joyful anticipation, and there being so much of all of that, that we carry on immune to the pains of being the first to make that route through all those obstacles.
We are so wrapped up in the bundle of aspirational, energetic flow of the dream about to come true that we can’t hear naysayers! Those mountains are molehills, those figures and facts are for other’s businesses not ours.
It may not even be a business it can be anything. A new look for our life. A new outlook on life. A different belief about who we are in this life. Anything at all.
Understanding it is there waiting for us, is one thing.
Reaching out, taking action and making it happen is another….yet another is sustaining that change and making it our own and be identifiable as the person who now is….
For many of us, our lives were mapped out via someone else’s expectation of who we should be. Historically this would happen
Not saying at all that other’s ideas of what we should be doing and where we could be going with that thing we do is wrong…at least it’s not wrong for them… but is it right for the individual they are making decisions for?
It is ultimately our choice to either live our lives on the back of someone else’s expectations and desires or our own.
The thing is, it’s all about the consequences of choosing to go our own way.
When we do there will be many nay sayers who will so enjoy ‘I told you So!’ They may well be super smug at the news of an apparent failure or setback that ‘could be seen’ as a failure but isn’t necessarily so…
Come on. Did you really think that even if you had gone out and done what others expected of you, it would be all plain sailing?
It can be more daunting to go out on a limb, to go your own way, to take the plunge etc. etc. etc. that doesn’t mean that you can’t change tack and look in other directions to make life work for you, the way you want it to be.
We can, you can, they can. Even when things are set in stone, they can be ‘weathered out’
We don’t really want to wait that long though.
The one thing that may help with your decision to do what you want as opposed to what you perceive is being expected of you is to ask the question.
‘Am I doing this for me, for my wants and needs or am I placating, easing, allowing someone else’s ideas and expectations to be mine?
You tell me which is going to be the more fulfilling and inspiring.
When we are doing what we really want to do, something we have passion and drive for; we become more at ease in ourselves. We become content. We are also inspired daily to see what we do as something wonderful and fulfilling.
There is always at least one Maverick in a family, why not be the one in yours…. I know I am the Maverick in mine!